The Kübler-Ross model (five stages of grief)

Maybe you recently or once lost someone, likely a loved one or someone with whom you've become acquainted.
So now you feel depressed, angry, hurt or you can’t seem to accept the fact that they’re gone
What you’re experiencing is called Kübler-Ross model or as it as commonly called, “The Five Stages of Grief”.
You don’t have to be upset about the way you feel, it’s normal for people who are grieving.
At some point, you have to lose control of your emotions and this is a good way to do it.
Now let's take a ride of enlightenment on these five stages of grief.
DENIAL:
This is the first stage, you can’t seem to accept the fact that this certain person is gone. You start wondering how you can move on, if you can move on and why you should move on. Denial is nature’s way of letting in only as much as we can handle. When you accept the reality of the loss and start asking yourself questions, you are unknowingly beginning the healing process.
ANGER:
You have to accept your anger cos the more you feel it, the easier it will be for you to heal. Sure enough anger has no limits and you might say things in anger to your loved ones and you might even start to question God but keep in mind that underneath all this anger is pain. You feel deserted and abandoned and this is normal for grieving people. Anger can be your strength at such times, it can be something to hold unto. We are always told to suppress our anger but on the contrary we ought to feel it at that point.
BARGAINING:
This is the point where we would like to go back in time, we would like our lives to go back to the way it used to be. We start thinking “if only” or “what if”. There is also a feeling of guilt here. You feel like you could’ve done something to prevent it or you did something to cause it. People often try to bargain with the pain, they try to remain in the past thinking they could negotiate their way out of the pain. They often forget that the stages are a response to feelings that may last for minutes or hours as we constantly flip out of one into another and vice versa.
DEPRESSION:
Losing a loved one can be very depressive hence depression is a normal response to such situations. The depressive stage seems as though it would last forever. To not experience depression after the loss of a loved one is very strange. Realizing that this person did not get better and will not return home soon is understandably depressing. If grief is a process of healing then depression is one of the necessary steps along the way.
ACCEPTANCE: most people might think that acceptance means you are finally “OK” with what happened but this is not the case. It is actually the stage where you realise that your loved one is gone, we don’t like this reality but we eventually accept it. We learn to re-adjust and in the process try to live again and enjoy life. There may be times where we feel like we are betraying the memories of our loved ones by living too good a life but be rest assured, this is normal because when finding acceptance you will experience good days and bad days. Instead of denying your feelings, try to make new connections and new meaningful relationships, try to move on, grow and evolve. Reach out to others and become involved in their lives.
In order to begin to live again your normal life again, it's important you give in to the grief, give it it's time, mourn all you can at this time and trust me, you'll son enough find yourself healing.

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